Do you know what absolutely triggers me in the worst way? Ghosting. Now, it shouldn’t, right? Fuck them if they don’t want to be in my life and don’t respect me enough to tell me what I did, or didn’t do. Yet… it does. A lot. I think it’s because it’s usually done to me by people who I really care about or consider to be important in my life. They just up and vanish one day. At first, I think they are just busy which is obviously normal, but then days turn into weeks turns into months. These days it is even worse when you have them on a social media app (aka Discord) and see them online… yet they don’t respond to you. Again, it’s fine if you are busy but I don’t think you are so busy that you can’t even say hello or ‘hey sorry I have been busy’ after a month. No, that is just ghosting.
Someone I care about a great deal, and who is one of my longest “friends” (I say that with quotes because if they were my friend, they wouldn’t ghost me) so I literally just said to them, “Hey, next time you are in town, we should grab lunch together?’ and they don’t reply to that and talk about something else. So, I ask again a few weeks later, and they never reply to me ever again. Literally. Talk about slap across the face. I don’t know what hurts worse… them not replying or the fact that they were so offended that I asked them to have lunch that they felt that they had to cut me out of their life. Just to make sure I wasn’t blowing this out of proportion in my head, I wished them Merry Christmas yesterday. Nothing. They have not wished me Merry Christmas before. I don’t understand nor will I ever. They were my best friend at one point in my life, so they know me better than so many people.. yet here we are. Man, I really really hate ghosting. Never treat people like that. Be an adult and tell them if you don’t want to see them or talk to them or whatever. Show some respect and class.